Social Anxiety Forum /forum/ Join our social anxiety forum to ask questions, share your advice, make friends, or just vent. en Mon, 01 Jul 2019 17:03:33 GMT vBulletin 60 /forum/images/SAS_2015/misc/rss.jpg Social Anxiety Forum /forum/ <![CDATA[Does anybody else laugh when they're scared?]]> /forum/f26/does-anybody-else-laugh-when-theyre-scared-2225111/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 15:58:06 GMT This has been one of my biggest problems--especially at work. It took me a long time to figure out what was going on, but what happens is somebody...
This has been one of my biggest problems--especially at work. It took me a long time to figure out what was going on, but what happens is somebody will smile at me, which scares the hell out of me, so I turn away and laugh, which makes me seem like I'm being disrespectful and laughing at them.

That's what happened the first day at my last job when I was being introduced to my managers. It was all downhill from there. That's what ruined my career.

It also happened when I used to play at a song circle. A woman smiled at me after she finished her song. I turned away and laughed. She thought I was laughing at her.

It's happened at social events. People who try to be friendly wind up hating me.

It even happened with my previous doctor. I had to switch doctors because he thought I was laughing at him.

The problem has been that I didn't understand what was going on. I saw a video last night about chimps and they talked about how chimps laugh when they're scared, and that's when it hit me.

Maybe now that I understand it a little better, I'll be able to manage it.
Coping With Social Anxiety Maslow /forum/f26/does-anybody-else-laugh-when-theyre-scared-2225111/
Would You Date a Hooker? /forum/f32/would-you-date-a-hooker-2225107/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 14:10:50 GMT Either literal or a scrubber?
Either literal or a scrubber?
Twocky61 /forum/f32/would-you-date-a-hooker-2225107/
Am I in the wrong here? /forum/f24/am-i-in-the-wrong-here-2225105/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 13:07:34 GMT Back in high school (when I was in 11th grade), I went to a psychotherapist. I was bullied for a lot of things in school and had to move. Someone...
Back in high school (when I was in 11th grade), I went to a psychotherapist. I was bullied for a lot of things in school and had to move. Someone once called me the n word, threw my lock into a locker and said my mother was a *****. In the new school, I was bullied differently but mainly due to my autism.

Something happened and I had enough. I'm not proud of it but I attacked one of my relatives with a weapon. I've been doing badly ever since and have been having homicidal thoughts (don't worry mods, I'm under medicine and under control, no threat just venting) about people IRL but I don't intend on carrying them out cause I don't want to go to jail and have that inflicted on me. Also I wanted to do more constructive things in my life.

Anyway I told my therapist about these thoughts at the time against my bullies and she remarked once that I was a spoiled brat. I found this insane in many ways. Obviously I wondered why I'm spoiled for expressing revengeful thoughts against bullies and in fact not them for doing these things to me. Then again she was pretty dismissive of my desire to kill myself and said it was weak. Ironically which didn't help me at all.

I know how serious homicide would have been legally and morally and obviously never intended to carry it out but I just find it insane again in life how you get bullied and bullied, ask for help, nothing happens then you bring a weapon to teach the bully a lesson and now you're the bad person.

Perhaps again as someone said well it's because of Aspergers that I don't see how bullying vs killing. I understand most people would not by any means even teenagers find the latter to be acceptable as revenge. I have suspicions that if I was older, living by myself and presented with the issues of bullying, it would have been treated much differently by her. I also think that if I referenced punching a bully it would also not have garnered such a visceral reaction from her.

What do you think?
General Discussion Liam Norton /forum/f24/am-i-in-the-wrong-here-2225105/
I am a fart noise in the Symphony that is the Cosmos /forum/f33/i-am-a-fart-noise-in-the-symphony-that-is-2225103/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 12:13:28 GMT Prfrpt Posted via Mobile Device
Posted via Mobile Device
Secondary Disorders versikk /forum/f33/i-am-a-fart-noise-in-the-symphony-that-is-2225103/
Children Who Murder /forum/f32/children-who-murder-2225101/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 10:55:53 GMT
There is a well known case of where two children murdered another child

Robert Thomson & John Vebables murdered James Bulger a two year old boy

The two lads committed the crime when they were both only 10 years old

Age 10 is when someone can legally be charged with any crime. So Robert & John were just old enough to be charged & convicted of murder

I believe Robert & John are now in their twenties & have been released from prison on parole & given new identity's

So considering these two boys were children, should they not be eventually released from prison; seeing they were children themselves at the time?
Twocky61 /forum/f32/children-who-murder-2225101/
Canberra coward finally seeking help /forum/f25/canberra-coward-finally-seeking-help-2225099/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 09:57:42 GMT Hi all, new to the forum. I am 31 years old and have been suffering from social anxiety for about 8 years. Growing up, I was always a very social...
Hi all, new to the forum.

I am 31 years old and have been suffering from social anxiety for about 8 years. Growing up, I was always a very social and outgoing person, the loudest kid in class. My social life was always very important to me. So, as you could imagine, this illness has hit me where it hurts the most and has completely changed the person I am today.

I have always been too ashamed to tell anyone how I feel or to seek the help I need. But enough is enough and I am finally ready to face my fear and be open and honest. I plan on telling my family/friends and have read a lot about CBT.

I was wondering if anyone can recommend a good GP that specialises in mental health in the Canberra area (that will actually see me and will take new bookings), as well as a good Psychologist that specialises in treating Social Anxiety? I have been massively let down by GP's previously and I find it very hard to trust them.

Thanks in advance!
The First Step Ben Steltenpool /forum/f25/canberra-coward-finally-seeking-help-2225099/
Disposable Income /forum/f24/disposable-income-2225097/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 08:57:19 GMT How much disposable income do you have?
How much disposable income do you have?
General Discussion Twocky61 /forum/f24/disposable-income-2225097/
LOSS L O S S story /forum/f26/loss-l-o-s-s-story-2225095/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 07:03:40 GMT
lost Keys



oƒ Society Anxiety

pockets: 2 not usual t-shirt upper chest pocket
hands: 2

home keys
car key
RAID can insecticide
ginger beer to dumpster
on way to street neighbour
my request: remote key button not functioning now, so raw metal entry. lo batt?
SMS "ok".. meanings? ignore: you're alright by yourself? OR: I come round, yep
front door opened! hi. not usual wife or son/daughter (defence?) he's not here..
a beep of his toy instrument.. so... 2pm? OK I come 2u agreed

so loaded all nervous carrying stuff (underarm bottles & phone!)
on street crossing gazing down towards his house. opposite someone tapping wrist gesture: whe i cannot hear voice, assuming want time? me same. me never watch. so "2pm".
disappointed: no emerging neighbour. at doorbell again, no answer.
one-off distinct: fingers in shorts pocket - NO car KEY!!???
bundled with stuff? into home again.. didn't leave car key there. where it gone? out to Dumpsters desperate. fishing around bottles area, seen. that key gone.. bottom? can't turn that monster on its head
someone tap me on shoulder. unknown large ginger bearded person. looking for something? my key handed to me. shoulder/back slap for thanks. time i get know this resident sometime. my questions.. how, when ya know? he said: "this bloke in the blue van" so i greeted as he spinning around towards exit, all smiling. i'd do for anyone. i watch people (not a granny-pick up her fumbles of spilt goods-scenario) their cars i identify more than people. when they start engine, i monitor. so rare when a human of use! Not just remotely "you have been unsuccessful this occasion!!!)" or trying sell stuff!

seasonal FX!! all Sundayys, all their families.. not me. any level of anxiety/loss/disappointment can skew me
later SMS: "Mike can we rearranged for another day I fell asleep OK"

both local friends (not this year) "running late or... ill! at work" excuses better than hidden

previous incident
years ago

home keys never neglected
in top pocket of t-shirt an advantage
bike speed especially. bumps can get keys emerge to ground.
I hear the rattle like bell. i go back to collect, not to drain yet


to GP once sprinting a reason i cannot recall any reason!
halfway to surgery, pocket check! nothing there! bounced out during my crazy sprinting, agile swapping path, road dodging ..frantic retracing all steps. any kerb, full of dead leaves then! to surgery whimpering! i giv up. Police? story? they cannot help. fragile society fabric infrastructure! all food checkout terminals blasť errorrs.. Rife!!!

local neighbour support of worth again.. years ago. i leave chubb unlocked.. timesaving.. short journey... not a different continent

a nigh locksmith girl! able find spare wood block of right shape, size dimensions. her small arm thru my letterflap. i never forget that. keys gone forever. backups present inside. she even had my home keys many year before from friend while my 4-month hospital episode(s) only caused by SA serious damage caused by phone
Coping With Social Anxiety twitchy666 /forum/f26/loss-l-o-s-s-story-2225095/
Pen Friends /forum/f24/pen-friends-2225093/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 06:56:55 GMT
Who had/has a penfriend?

Pre '88 & the advent of the internet, having a penfriend to write to & receive letters from, was & still is, a brilliant way to make friends & break the boredom of everyday life
General Discussion Twocky61 /forum/f24/pen-friends-2225093/
Brother From Hell /forum/f265/brother-from-hell-2225091/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 05:22:01 GMT I have been typing out my life story for a few months now. I just finished writing about my brother, who was a horrible evil person. I blame a lot of...
I have been typing out my life story for a few months now. I just finished writing about my brother, who was a horrible evil person. I blame a lot of my Anxiety on him, because after high school I was recovering from all the years of being bullied, and he stopped that recovery dead in its tracks, and set my Anxiety to an all time new high...

Full story-->
Family AngryE /forum/f265/brother-from-hell-2225091/
How do you make friends and connect? /forum/f257/how-do-you-make-friends-and-connect-2225089/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 04:58:28 GMT
I've always had this, but I have a very hard time making friends with people. I meet a lot of people, but I don't really have any friends. Most of the time they're only my friend in that situation, for example, work friends at work, friends in jiujitsu while training, but outside of that I cant really connect. There's always like an invisible wall that keeps us from getting closer, and most of the time the person just becomes a really good acquaintance. I only really have one friend, my cousin. Most of the people who I thought were my friends haven't checked up on me in the past months I've been isolated due to depression. I dont know what to do, or where I can meet people I'm more compatible with.

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Friendships andrew141 /forum/f257/how-do-you-make-friends-and-connect-2225089/
Do your relatives/colleagues/friends know you have SA /forum/f26/do-your-relatives-colleagues-friends-know-you-have-sa-2225087/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 00:18:34 GMT
Or anything else that makes you different to your average human being?

I personally don't think anyone knows I have SA. Definitely not my family, they are in total oblivion. Colleagues I don't have them as for friends I'm sure some see that I'm a bit weird but I don't think they are even aware of something called SA.
My best friend says I have no confidence but I don't think he really understand how hard it is to have no confidence. He never tries to help me which I'm totally fine with because I'm not open for it enough. He is the exact opposite of me, very easy going, very friendly, talkative etc. It's a pain in the *** to go out with him, he knows everybody , wants to go talk to everybody and I always just stand next to him in complete silence. By looking like an ******* (defense mechanism) I scared off various people who he was talking with. When they're gone I always say "look I scared them off again". and he says "it's true I noticed it too".
It gets better after a couple of beers, I look (just look...) happy then but still I hardly utter a word to people I don't know .

What about you ?
Coping With Social Anxiety conantheworthless /forum/f26/do-your-relatives-colleagues-friends-know-you-have-sa-2225087/
Are you happy? /forum/f24/are-you-happy-2225085/ Mon, 01 Jul 2019 00:02:45 GMT
That probably sounds a bit stupid - but I often wonder how it is that after all the crap I've been through I'm actually a fairly happy person. I guess it's because the good experiences have (just) outweighed the bad. Maybe I'm sort of optimistic in nature too - plus of course I'm off my medication so I'm probably slightly "elevated" in mood.

Would you say you're happy overall? Or has the anxiety or whatever else you're dealing with made you're life completely miserable?
General Discussion harrison /forum/f24/are-you-happy-2225085/
Hello people! /forum/f25/hello-people-2225081/ Sun, 30 Jun 2019 20:00:36 GMT
I'm Jason, a recovering social anxiety human. I do at times still go through the motions, but I've managed it over time. It's good to be here and I hope that I can help some of you with your disorders.
The First Step Tom Cartney /forum/f25/hello-people-2225081/
Youtube alternatives /forum/f23/youtube-alternatives-2225077/ Sun, 30 Jun 2019 18:55:38 GMT
So it seems Youtube is just getting too controlling and censoring everything. Demonetizing creators etc. I'm not here to argue whether that is good or not. I want to know what are some good alternatives to YOutube to checkout. The other thing I dont like about Googles Algorithms is the targeting based on what I view. I know what I'm looking for. I don't need you to show me more things I can already search myself. What I want is more random stuff that I never knew about and maybe I get turned onto or learn something new. And i don't want overly family friendly. I'm adult. I want more adult themed content that isn't sugar coated and ranked lower cause if offends sponsors. And I'm Asian so no I don't want some white nationalist nonsense either. Just more content creator stuff that isn't over PC and SJW. Like it used to be.
Entertainment C137 /forum/f23/youtube-alternatives-2225077/