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Hi guys, I just wanna see what you guys have to say about this. I've always felt a bit separated from my family because they are super super religious and I'm just not. I respect their faith and don't pester them about it but sometimes it makes me uncomfortable when they beg me to come to the church my grandpa built. I've played along for the past few years but now even being in the building makes me uncomfortable. I don't know how to detach myself from that side of their lives because they also don't know that I'm non-religious. I think they may have picked up on some signs like my clear disinterest and avoidance. What do you think I should do to get away from it all? Do I just ignore how I feel in order to fit in with them and make them feel better? I've moved away from them so it isn't like I see them every day anymore. Just really conflicted.

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I was also brought up in a super religious family, but I never was religious at all. I spent the first 20 years of my life trying to ignore how I felt to "fit in." It just made me more and more depressed and anxious because I felt like I was living this double life, pretending to be someone I wasn't. I think it contributed a lot to my SA, as well as other things.

So I say be true to yourself, if at all possible. If you've moved away and aren't dependent on your family anymore, that sounds like the perfect position to stand up for yourself and reject any future invitations. Be honest with them -- tell them that it just isn't for you, and that it makes you uncomfortable. If they actually care about you at all then they'll understand. If they're too brainwashed or zealous to accept your disinterest then they're probably not the kind of people you want in your life anyway. I lost a lot of old friends when I made my atheism public, but in hindsight they were all superficial and petty people.

Just my two cents.

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