I'm afraid to get a job because I don't want to be bullied again
Hey guys, I wanted your input on something...
I've been unemployed since February, and quite honestly, I haven't tried looking for a job yet.
First of all, I don't know how in the heck I'm supposed to start. No one ever told me. My parents assured me if I walked into a store and asked for a job that I would get one. I filled out 150+ applications the summer after I graduated from High School, and I never once got a call back from any of the stores or places that I applied to. I don't know if it's this hard to get a job outside the US, but I'm pretty sure the entire wold's economy is going down the drain.
I landed a job in 2012, but only because my then best friend at the time worked there and somehow got me a job. I worked there for about 8 to 9 months before I was forced into job abandonment in December 2012.
After that, I was unemployed from December until June 2012. The same person who got me my first job got my boyfriend a job, who in turn got me the job I had until February...
At the first place, it was retail and I learned that I hated people with a burning passion. I was mistreated, but looking back, it wasn't all that bad. I had a few really bad customers, one who threw motor oil at me and another who told me to quit my job if I hated it so much. However, because I had to work this stupid 'pre- Black Friday' sale, I'm too scared to go back to retail. This is the event that resulted in me avoiding people, and having panic attacks in busy stores. I was the best damn cashier in the store, I had the highest metrics, but my manager didn't like me. She bullied me whenever she got, and made sure to make me very nervous when the doors opened for the pre-BF sale...She even made me sign something stating my drawer was short and I signed it 'under protest' but I actually found out today, that I didn't have to sign it. I could've fought it. But oh well. I learned at this job that HR is not there to help you, but to protect the company.
Moving on to my previous job...My boss set me up to fail on day one, and when he interviewed me, I thought it was too good to be true! Red flag number one. He told me that he knew I wasn't going to work out, because I was a woman and all the previous women didn't last longer than 3 months. That's because he's a sexist pig and thinks that just because someone has breasts and works for him that they're his personal assistant. He tried to get me to become his personal assistant and run his errands, take all his phone calls, and everything. I would occasionally be told to pick him food up when I was coming back to work, but then he wouldn't tell me what he wanted and would complain if I got him something he didn't like...So I would get him what I knew he didn't like unless he told me and I'd say "Oh sorry, you did say to get you what I usually get, and this is my favorite burger, soooo..." But he would sit there and tell me that I could talk to him about anything. I knew that was a lie when I went to him about my coworker who was bullying me. I told him I didn't like it and it was affecting not only my job performance, but I was beginning to fall into a depression. So he started bullying me, and then to make matters worse, my boyfriend was getting our finances looked at by him--So he knew we both needed to be working, and started treating us very poorly. It sucked because there were only 15 people working there..so there was no HR department, just my boss.
Not to mention I got fired for hating my job! He backed me into a corner one day and started talking to me about it, asking all these questions that basically amounted to "If you're not willing to do every aspect of your job with a smile on your face, how's about you make today your last one?" The ******* waited until the last day of the pay cycle to do this.
Now I'm afraid to get a job because the only two jobs I've had were pretty bad...and I've been doing research on protecting myself from bullying in the workplace, but all it's doing is making me more scared. Because if you value your job, you can't complain about -anything-, and the only way to get a job is if you're willing to work for free.
Do other people feel like this? Short of joining a union I don't think I'll ever find a job where I'm both paid enough and treated correctly.
Is there anything we can do? In the US there's this thing called 'OSHA' which kind of helps, if you're not afraid of retaliation.
Can anyone give me advice on how they dealt with bully bosses when they -had- to work? My boyfriend is still working there and he's...not doing very well, and me sitting on my *** all day doesn't help him. I want to get a job so he can quit and take some much needed time to just relax, but, I don't want to be bullied for the rest of my life, either.