Is The Idea of Workplace Friendship a Joke?
For an introvert , most of our social interaction is predicated upon the venture to work. We may not like the idea of talking or socializing to any extent but we do it because our job may require communication or we are just trying to be friendly in the coy way that we know how.
I've been at my current place of employment for 5 years and when ever I recollect on years prior, I realize how much socializing at work has never well.... worked out for me.
When I was first hired, I didn't talk to anyone at all unless it pertained to the job. I was oddly happier that way. Even though I still don't like to socialize, I have naturally grown somewhat more comfortable in the environment and have therefore talked casually to some folk and even given out my number to a few people.
The thing is though, I hate small talk so most of those "casual" conversations I've had with co-workers feel like a tremendous chore and are never fulfilling. I realize that I only partake in them because I subconsciously want to avoid being alone in the moment.
Giving my number to a few people over the years has also proven to be a worthless act as well. I would give them my number and no one would call me or text me back. If they ever did contact me, which was extremely rare, it was because they wanted or needed something from me, never to ask how I was doing. I get that if I were to have friends, I would have to give effort as well but these people I've given my number to are people whom pestered me for it. I never asked them for friendship. They promised interactions only to never deliver.
Trying to make friends with anyone at work seems to be a fruitless endeavor and I am personally fine with that. I like my alone time far too much than to abandon it for a "friendship" that wouldn't even feel real to me anyways.
What say you though? Is the idea of workplace friendship a joke?
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