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The trick is to work hard but also develop good relationships. You'll go far that way, and you'll feel good about yourself. Of course, with SAD, the latter can be difficult if not impossible.

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At my job if you work hard and finish all your tasks early you just get rewarded with more work. Don't get a raise or a bonus or anything.

I will do what needs to be done but I have no interest in becoming an overachiever.
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At my last job I was a little to over eager to please, so the more I done the more I got to do, meanwhile the boss a woman in her late 30's at the time most days would come in at 10am leave at 12 to get hair done or a manicure or some crap come back by 2 then go home at 4, while me & a few others were working like dogs from 7am to 7 pm with minimal lunchbreaks, management in a nutshell.






And all our yesterdays have lighted fools the way to dusty death
Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow,
A poor player that strut's and fret's his hour upon the stage and is heard no more,
It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.
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Not if you end up in dead end low paying jobs like I now have. I don't have the ability to do well, low self confidence, inability to handle pressure, zero drive/ambition.
Never had confidence/ambition as it was knocked out of me before I became an adult.
I've reached a good level of managing my anxiety, going out, having a relationship but life is never going to be comfortable.
Financially it's going to be a tiresome struggle for the rest of my days which sucks but what can you do?

That said I know I am strong as a lot of you are, it takes a herculean effort to stick around and endure through this struggle, many would check out and I wouldn't blame them. Mental health issues have cost me most of my life, arguably the best years of my life which is a huge price but I'm enjoying some bits of life right now, kind of bitter sweet but there it is.



We've all got a little bit of royal blood in our veins, we're all in line for the succession, and if nineteen million, four hundred thousand, two hundred and eight people die, I'll be king tomorrow. It's not very likely but its a nice thought and helps keep me going.

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This is one of the many reasons why I hated being part of the workforce. The people who advanced were the ones who kissed the right @$$es and had the politics working in their favor. When you're in business for yourself, there are no gatekeepers. You're judged by the market, and the market doesn't care how charming or charismatic you are, or that your daddy plays golf at the same country club as the hiring manager.
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I agree with the people who said about learning a skill (IT, finance, plumbing etc). There might still be some politics but you will be in demand.
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I could never understand those type of people and come in work and just play around like kids. I seen plenty of those kind of people and they always act like they deserve a raise. Most of those people don't last. I been at my work for a while now and I use to get around $10 when I started. Now I get over $18 an hour. Hard work can pay off if you keep at it.
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means a lot

i got nothing to do or eat! √

engine needs repairing! it can move! I drive it to garage

how does one establish some agreement / deal ?

Lost brother ħook presence. happens a lot to me. friends. some stick with it. checking each mutual mirrors same effect to all of us. plain null signal. so much fascinating material.. holidsys.. from him! gone for good, no..Bad! always typing their name.. one character shows whole immediately. each instance after loss, a plethora of others with same name! Haunting! My nieces.... all

spooookyy!! any others.. choose any matching name..no photo of who i know. not the person i been following 4 years! OUCH!
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means a lot

i got nothing to do or eat! √

engine needs repairing! it can move! I drive it to garage
....Yeah work makes surviving easier alright






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I chased down a thief and reclaimed over $200 of product one time and was warned that I'd be fired if i did that again lol. The owner was a cheap-*** who wouldn't even hire loss prevention
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Clearly they don't value your contribution. I worked at my job for 13 years, and they want to restructure to better fit their new proposed budget that is a 75% cut. Which has been my biggest anxiety source.. It's going to be an interesting year.


This 'above and beyond' concept has limits. Sounds like you've established yours.

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I chased down a thief and reclaimed over $200 of product one time and was warned that I'd be fired if i did that again lol. The owner was a cheap-*** who wouldn't even hire loss prevention
They probably wanted to claim on the insurance, some businesses are happy with theft as it's as good as a sale. I hate that attitude but that's the world we are living in now. I used to love chasing down thieves but I'm not allowed to anymore.



We've all got a little bit of royal blood in our veins, we're all in line for the succession, and if nineteen million, four hundred thousand, two hundred and eight people die, I'll be king tomorrow. It's not very likely but its a nice thought and helps keep me going.

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I chased down a thief and reclaimed over $200 of product one time and was warned that I'd be fired if i did that again lol. The owner was a cheap-*** who wouldn't even hire loss prevention
They probably wanted to claim on the insurance, some businesses are happy with theft as it's as good as a sale. I hate that attitude but that's the world we are living in now. I used to love chasing down thieves but I'm not allowed to anymore and I am loss prevention.



We've all got a little bit of royal blood in our veins, we're all in line for the succession, and if nineteen million, four hundred thousand, two hundred and eight people die, I'll be king tomorrow. It's not very likely but its a nice thought and helps keep me going.

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At my job if you work hard and finish all your tasks early you just get rewarded with more work. Don't get a raise or a bonus or anything.

I will do what needs to be done but I have no interest in becoming an overachiever.
Ain't that the truth LOL
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It only does, if you do so after putting yourself in the right situation and working towards the right goals and right ways. Unfortunately in most cases, it takes a lot of experimenting and trial & error first. Unless you're lucky.


Enjoy any good things, even the little and menial ones, as you will never know what impending distresses could descend upon you in a moment.
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It's not about what you know but who you know. It's all about networking and brown nosing.

I wonder why I work hard and care when no one else does. My manager messes around all the time and because she's social people don't notice what a bad manager she is.

Any suggestions I provide would just be disregarded. People resent me because I try to be efficient and make sure to not make a lot of mistakes.

I used to stay back at work but not anymore. I take my breaks now. I'm just going to do what is required of me and not care. Why should I care about improving processes when management doesn't care.

I'm quite serious when it comes to work so I'm going to learn to relax. I'm going to try to socialise more.
Your first line....so very true. I experienced that for many years at my old job. The supervisor was the wife of the company owner. So the staff basically consisted of her family and friends (at one point 3 of her sisters, her niece and her BFF) were on the staff at the same time. If you weren’t related to her, then you got the job because you knew someone there. It was never about hiring the best, it was about her taking the easy way and bringing in people she knew so she could continue to get away with her shenaningans. Eventually, her cluelessness, lack of professionalism and poor management skills ran the company into the ground, the few good people left and her husband had his reputation ruined and he ended up selling the company.

My current job is more professional but still not free of politics. There is a a core group who is favored by management and it is obvious that they are treated differently. There is little to no room for advancement and the pay and benefits suck so I just don’t have the motivation to go above and beyond what is expected of me because it will get me nowhere.
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in some workplaces it does and others it doesn't. It's down to how concrete the work is, and how replaceable you are.. You don't need high EQ or social skills to thrive in some workplaces. In general the world needs less high EQ , and more high IQ individuals. I personally believe in this day and age the smart people are getting smarter and the dumb are getting dumber. I was always average at math i'm just very aware of certain systems. This likely won't get me very far in life and I will need to find a factory-style job. I am a very coachable hard-worker who thrives when management's communication skills are there, so hopefully i won't get bossed around by some egomaniac which seems to be the norm..Dumb low iq/ low eq people end up in positions of management all too often and can create a workforce composed in animosity and fear.
I think hard work is paying off on a systemic scale where I live, with crime-rate going down and people becoming more aware of the outside world through applicable resources. I do believe individuals are more narcissistic and material than ever however.
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