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One day on OkCupid - Report


Because I started a very, very serious streak of Nofap I thought this could be compounded by some "probing" in the online dating scene.

My conclusions are as follows.

Pertaining to things that have implications for everyone:

-I rejected instantly each and every woman that was Three words removed without checking anything else.

I suspect most people do this, or at least most women do this, because we know from statistics crafted by these app companies themselves that for some reason women practice "looks hypergamy" on top of the usual hypergamy related with wealth and status. And I am a very intellectual man that has even had spiritual anti-materialist phases (gnosticism), but the instinctive sexual selection just never went away.

Looks are the first filter in sexual selection, what a shocker, eh? But many of us want to think we are above that to some extent.

Pertaining to me:

- I didnīt find anyone I actually matched with intellectually or in worldview AKA that I would enjoy talking to.

This is not strictly about "smarts" (e.g. the 98% match Biologist girl from Lafayette which possibly ignored my message might very well be overall smarter than me), itīs more like my top matches maybe liked 40 books, movies, music groups etc and I was lucky if one or two of these corresponded with the ones in my own (mental) list.

This corroborates what I had concluded prior, I am too unique and that is in no way an advantage, the further you stray from the average the higher that chances of loneliness (or stellar success) are. Its safe to say adult virgins with severe SA and anhedonia will natually sediment more on the loneliness and failure side of uniqueness.

- I actually donīt care about sex or finding romance, getting friends is more appealing and urgent.

I wish there were sites like these for finding friends, for real. I just want to laugh again with someone, preferably at society. Iīm actually gonna look for them but it wonīt be much easier to find friends with my interests and compatible personalities than a girlfriend.

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This post is like an incellian all you can eat buffet.

Would love to post, in full, but cba lol. If the OP gives me permission though I might. It won't be pretty, though.

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Whatīs CBA? Thatīs pretty funny that you ask permission to hurt mah feelings, how polite.

Go ahead.
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Canīt be arsed lol

I mean, yes I am an incel but not the standard one. I am not kissless, unfunny or fugly. I was well on my way to lose virginity back in 2011 with frequent succesful contact when a suddent accident rendered me anorgasmic and sexually impotent (though now the second part is improved).

From then on things just went crashing down, stopped going out and alienated myself form my friends that were sex obsessed and teased me yada yada.

I would categorize me as a mentalcel more than anything, if they havenīt concocted that term yet. I am too far gone mentally, socially alienated, insecure and bitter to even dream of trying relationships. But I have high hopes for nofap.
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As you identify as an incel, knowing enough about social identity theory and the intergroup sensitivity effect means you are likely engrossed in that community (mentalcel is a term, and you know it is), and are probably impervious to any argument, and any attempts to do so will threaten your identity and make you defend it. So clearly not worth the time. This thread, like the dating site efforts are probably an attempt to bolster your beliefs by purposefully inducing criticism (so you can defend your identity). I will pass.

Am sorry about the accident, though (genuinely), for what it's worth. Hope things there continue to get better and you can claw your way somehow out of the inceldom.

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Well you could try going to meet-up groups in your area, but I don't know if anyone actually makes friends that way or it's mostly just an excuse to do stuff with people but then never see them again later. Maybe if it's some reoccurring event that attracts the same people repeatedly.

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Well now I'm just going to be wondering all day. Was it:

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was haggard, hysterical, and hypergamous without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was punctilious, prepossessing, and pedantic without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was pulchritudinous, philistine, and pugnacious without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was tempestuous, truculent, and turpitudinous without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was sanguine, seraphic, and saucy without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was impudent, insouciant, and irascible without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was unctuous, ungrateful, and underfed without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was acerbic, astute, and aerodynamic without checking anything else?

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Well now I'm just going to be wondering all day. Was it:

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was haggard, hysterical, and hypergamous without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was punctilious, prepossessing, and pedantic without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was pulchritudinous, philistine, and pugnacious without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was tempestuous, truculent, and turpitudinous without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was sanguine, seraphic, and saucy without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was impudent, insouciant, and irascible without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was unctuous, ungrateful, and underfed without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was acerbic, astute, and aerodynamic without checking anything else?
I think it was: I rejected instantly each and every woman that was dangerous, deranged, and deadly without checking anything else?
Also you just wanted to show off your extensive vocab didn't you? Haha

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Well now I'm just going to be wondering all day. Was it:

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was haggard, hysterical, and hypergamous without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was punctilious, prepossessing, and pedantic without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was pulchritudinous, philistine, and pugnacious without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was tempestuous, truculent, and turpitudinous without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was sanguine, seraphic, and saucy without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was impudent, insouciant, and irascible without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was unctuous, ungrateful, and underfed without checking anything else?

I rejected instantly each and every woman that was acerbic, astute, and aerodynamic without checking anything else?

fantastic poem!!


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I think it was: I rejected instantly each and every woman that was dangerous, deranged, and deadly without checking anything else?
Also you just wanted to show off your extensive vocab didn't you? Haha
Well, I assumed that since the OP is a very intellectual man, he might have used criteria like these. But also, yes.

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Well, I assumed that since the OP is a very intellectual man
Not only very intellectual, but spiritual. Hence the very, very serious nofap.

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I’m not sure if it’s your intent but you would probably have much more success in online dating if you posted your sexiest pictures and expected nothing but a hook up with no further contact afterwards.



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